Which MEAN GIRL are you?

Why good looking people always considered mean?

It is always expected from good looking and privileged people to be nice to people who are not as privileged as they are. We have always been taught that, we shouldn’t judge anyone or treat anyone differently because of their looks. But don’t privileged people expect the same behavior.

How many times less beautiful girls befriend more beautiful girls so that they can be the part of the squad and get something out of the popularity beautiful girls are getting. So that they can have their personality improved. So that they can learn a few tips from beautiful people. So that they can know what kind of creams, therapies, hair products beautiful girls are using. Well I have seen this all my life.

Our society is quite duplicitous, first they demand you to be beautiful then they call you mean if you are beautiful.

Once I tried to comfort a friend who was feeling really low because she was not beautiful enough. I told her why you are being so hard on yourself. Beauty isn’t everything. She said you will never understand, I replied I have flaws too. She was like really what are those – I said I have such bad teeth and she said it doesn’t matter because teeth are behind lips. Apparently it is okay to have flaws if you are not displaying them on showcase.

I was on a holiday and one of my fellow girls just started observing my flaws like my eyebrows are not made perfectly, my hairs not colored properly. She got me in a “not so bad” mood so I replied with a smile otherwise I would have replied – “Still better than yours” and I would become a mean girl instantly.

I have seen girls enjoying when boys make fun of beautiful girls saying that they are dumb. What guys know about girls? Girls only pretend to be dumb because they know guys are dumb enough to believe in this dumb act. But yes girls really enjoyed if a beautiful girl is called dumb. That’s like the ultimate truth for them and are pleased that boys are realizing it too

Why is it an offense to call a hard working woman just a house wife but it is not an offense to assume all working girls just sit there in office and get paid, when they face gender discrimination every minute, every second. P.S. whoever thinks gender discrimination doesn’t exist at their work place is either delusional or lying or very much ignorant.

Once a girl in office tried to get friendly with me. She started like this you are not married. It was not a question, it was a statement phrased like a sad little truth. Apparently she is married and younger than me. I wanted to say – and who married you? But instead said no, I am not. It did not end here, she went on asking – did you have your hair straightened? I said no why? And she said – well your hair look like they were damaged from straightening treatment. That was first time she was talking to me and she offended me two times. I think I am human enough to be allowed a bad hair day. I didn’t say anything but I made sure that everyone knew what she said to me. You see in order to deal with bitches you have to be a better bitch.

I don’t understand why is it rude to call fat people fat but it is a healthy joke if you tell a slim girl that “your mother is not feeding you properly”.  I remember my "healthy" friends being really happy about me putting on some weight. They were practically gloating that this girl is not going to be slim forever.  

I once had a friend who was really good looking, though she was proud of her looks, she wasn’t mean. She talked to everyone nicely, she helped everyone, and she considered everyone. She always made it perfectly clear that she was the most good looking person in the room (not in a bad way) but every girl enjoyed it when she had emotional breakdowns, someone offended her or if she suffered in any other ways. Tell me who is the meanest here. If all of us felt threatened by her beauty, it wasn’t her fault. We had a fallout (for very different reasons) and later she tried to make it up to me, may be if I were on her place I wouldn’t have the gut to do that. She was a thousand times human than any of us and still is.

Right from the Primary school, till this date. This has happened so many times with me – Girls wanted to be friends with me. They wanted to know my secret, which I don’t even know myself. Once they would realize that they have achieved the same level as me, they would start being mean to me, always giving me remarks like I have uneven teeth, I am too small, too skinny and so on. It’s not my problem if they thought they can beat me in some non-existent competition. I am just your next door girl who likes to have friends rather than followers. Followers are just the people who dreams of taking your place one day.

Some girls go above and beyond to insult girls who they want to follow in their personality development journey. Once a girl asked me to go shopping with her because I have great dressing sense. I asked her for what occasion she was shopping; she said she is buying stuff for her sister because her sister was supposed to attend a wedding. I spend 2-3 hours with her; she kept taking me from shop to shop without buying anything I recommended. I was exhausted and told her I am going home. She insisted on going to another mall which was at the opposite end of the city, when I said no, she tried emotional blackmailing on me. I still left.  After a few days I came to know from our common friend that the shopping girl is getting married in a few days and she didn’t even invite me. Well she didn’t exactly lie about her sister attending a wedding. I don’t need to ask who is the mean girl here.

I was once blocked by a girl because she thought I was good looking and mean, she didn’t even try to give me benefit of doubt. I have been accused of being sophisticated while I consider myself quite feral. It’s not my problem if you can’t keep up with being like me. I did not ask you to be like me. I am an INFJ and “being me” is exhausting. I don’t understand why anyone would choose to be that on purpose.

I have 3 elder sisters and I am the ugliest but I don’t blame them for hijacking all the good DNAs. I just try to do best with what I have got. I am 36 and single but I don’t blame my married friends for holding onto good guys. I feel optimistic that there were some good guys so there might be more.

How many times we have seen girls sabotage their relationships with each other because of being in competition with each other over looks? How can we compete with Men in this gender biased society when we are always pushing each other in corner over something so fleeting as looks?

I don’t mind being called mean; it might be a problem for everyone else but not for me.

Life is mean to everyone in general, no one is that privileged.

We live in a mean world which is hell bent on dividing people in different categories. Whichever category you belong to it doesn’t give you any right to be mean to the other category.