Not ready to mingle - Part 2

I am back with some more real-life events, these are just so above the bar.

I first met this guy on a matrimonial site, he sent me a request and I accepted it. He was from IIM and that’s his identity, the boy from IIM. Apparently, he thinks I am not educated enough to know anyone else from IIM. He could only talk about 2 topics IIM tales and how hot I am. 

We hadn’t met yet and he says to me he looks like Virat Kohli, was I supposed to be impressed because I wasn’t. I don’t find Virat Kohli impressive as a person, as a cricketer or as a celebrity, I am more of a Rahul Dravid kind of person. I am into reliable, dependable men. So, he played that one wrong.

Anyway, we met and he realizes that he likes me but he can’t marry me because he is from IIM and I am from some engineering college. I understand some people want their partner to be their equal but he also previously rejected a girl from a very prestigious education institute because she was very ambitious, to this day I can’t understand what is wrong with that. He earns double than me, it doesn’t matter if he had to spend 75% of it on education loan and also, I am a few months older than him. What amazes me he still wants to date me, because maybe I don’t hold up to his standards but I am still hot. Baby, I have been living with myself for 37 years. I am perfectly aware of my own hotness and the hotter I may get if surrounded by idiots.

Once he was talking to me on the phone while driving, suddenly he says – Oh my god! Such short skirts! and I asked him where are you? He says at the signal – some school girls are crossing the road. And I never really talked to him again. People like him needs to understand objectifying every girl in the vicinity is not cool, specially when you are 35 years old and the girl is in school. It doesn’t matter how much horny you are, it is just unacceptable.

This guy, he is also in IT, works in an MNC. At first, he seems nice, it was easy to converse with him, I was not annoyed by him, I was taking things slow but he wanted to move on to censored topics of conversation. He could have said something quite different but what he says is – “Today I went to a temple with my whole family. I was so shocked what my 13 years old cousin was wearing, that too inside a temple. Now a days teenagers are just so sexually active”. I just hung up and never talked to him again.

I am an INFJ and I judge people too fast, maybe it’s one of my faults but I am never going to give benefit of doubt to paedophiles and perverts.

This guy I met on a dating site, is in Airforce. Should be a gentleman, right? Well, if education can’t give you sensibility how the hell your profession can.

First time I talked to him, I could talk for hardly 2 mins and after putting down the phone he messages me – I miss you. What did you really miss about me, a 2 hour long imaginary conversation?

Second time I told him; I can’t talk to you because I have a headache. He says- let me make you some tea. Seriously! at middle age, he is going to play kitchen set with me because I haven’t done that for 30 years. I am not sure how many technological advances are made every day but I am perfectly aware that no technology exist which can deliver hot tea in time from Hyderabad to Indore, for someone who is going to have a 100% real Migraine.

He is messaging me – I just came out of shower and I am dripping wet. Let me stop you right there, I talked to you only once on phone, I don’t even know yet if I am slightly interested in you. If I really want to fantasize about someone I have never met, that would rather be Chris Pine.

Well fortunately at very initial level all this stops because he blocked me, I somehow managed to turn him off. Well, good riddance. Did I declare victory too soon? Yes, I did. He found me on Telegram and sent me some messages which I ignored. After a few months he again sends hi/hellos on WhatsApp. I realized that he blocked me, but I didn’t block him, I didn’t know I had to because I have never been on the other side of this blockchain. Anyways I say to him – I think you have insulted me enough, now please stop bothering me and he says - I lost all my phone contacts so I just wanted to know who this person is. Now I blocked him. This guy really needs to grow up if he is still losing all contacts from his phone. I just don’t understand, if he is dumb or he thinks I am dumb so he can act like he is dumb. 

It is expected from well-educated, well-placed people to be sensible and well-mannered but I am sorry not sorry but, in my experience, overqualified people are toxic.  Chivalry is dead and these men have killed it.

So don’t ask me why I am single, ask these men what is wrong with them.

These guys need to understand, some girls run on high maintenance, some on high morals and some on both (which is completely fine). A bit of advice to these kinds of men, if you really want a girl’s attention be a gentleman not a pervert.

It may seem, I am frustrated but I am not. I just have truck load of sassy quotes for these kinds of situations and I have a separate folder called “Hopeless” in my phone where I keep screenshots of these kinds of conversations. Sometimes I say to myself, how would I entertain myself if people were not so stupid.

Anyway, I completely understand, not everyone is same. But looking for right person is like looking for aliens, you know they are out there somewhere but you just can’t find them.

To be continued (with a different perspective) …